This week has been a huge week with Christmas and New Years, my sons birthday on New Years Eve and my husbands birthday was just after Christmas, it seems to make things a little more hectic. But in saying that I had a really great week this week and now today I finally have time to get some writing done and to just relax.
Spending time with family and friends has been wonderful, but sometimes there are times when things can get a little on edge. So I wanted to talk to you about my feelings and beliefs about friendship. I have changed my thoughts and beliefs over the last few years and many walls of fear that I once had, have now been beaten down.
The fear of interfering was one of them.
I am unsure of how I can tell you about my rules about being a friend so I think I will just give you my description:
I will not be the one that stands by and tells you what you want to hear so that you feel better, instead I will tell you the truth.
I will not band-aid you so that you can continue doing things that bring you back to my arms crying, I will instead tell you the truth.
I will not agree with your actions if I do not believe in what you have done, I will instead tell you the truth.
As your friend you will only get one thing from me…..the truth. The truth from my heart. There is only one thing I expect from you in return and that is the truth.
Now I’m not talking about opinions here, I am talking about the truth. I am especially not talking about giving an over egotistical “I’m right, you’re wrong” opinion that some people feel they need to give.
I am talking about the truth!
So from now on, I am not afraid of being in your face, asking you personal questions, expecting the truth just as I give you. I have no fear if I have made you feel upset or made you uncomfortabe by what I have said or done to ensure that the outcome is what is best for YOU. You can get angry by my words but most of the time people get angry because I have hit a nerve. If what I say was a lie then nerves cannot be hit.
Everything I do and say is with love and for the greater good for all and especially for the ones that I love. Being a friend is about being in everyones face and making sure that everyone is TRULY okay.
Guess what, everyone lies to each other by saying…..“Yeah I’m okay.”
I had to attend a funeral for a work mate this week due to suicide, it was terrible! This has completely opened my eyes up as to how we are not making other people’s business our own business. If you are my family or friend you are MY business. Im not going to sit around and wait for another funeral to go to because I decided to mind my own business. Everyone’s business is my business, we are all connected and this year I am going to get into everyones business wether they like it or not.
As your friend I will listen to you, love you, cherish you, hug you, be grateful for you, allow you to make mistakes, not judge you, and I will fight for you. You will have my honesty and my truth always, that is friendship.